Keeping a relationship going is a daily thing, but I was suprised to discover the advice of Dr. Gary Neuman in his book Connect to Love suggested that what women really want is time spent with their spouse. Of all the things we talk about women wanting, according to a vast amount of research, time with their spouse is number one. The majority of women in happy relationships get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time with their husbands each day. Twenty-four percent of women who claim to be in unhappy relationships spend fewer than five minutes a day with their spouses. Uninterrupted time means time spent without iPhones and Blackberrys, a conversation with nothing else on.
Thirty minutes? Seriously? Sometimes we have to adjust our perspectives a bit and ask if we really are doing what we think we are doing. Thirty minutes of uninterupted time a day, in the course of normal life, can feel like a very long time... and if we inventory, or audit how much time we give those we truely love, we may be in for a rude awakening. Between children, jobs, homes, projects, friends, bills, chores, errands, schoolwork and all the other demands of on our time, it is easy to confuse in our heads the difference between time spent with someone and time spent on someone or for someone.
